We all know her. The woman who keeps everything together. She’s the go-to at work, the one who shows up for her family, the friend who always listens and has the right words. She’s reliable, she’s capable, she’s strong. But here’s the part most people don’t see: she’s tired. Behind the polished smile and the endless to-do list, she’s quietly carrying more than anyone realizes.
Read MoreSome of the deepest wounds come from relationships that were supposed to keep us safe. When caregivers or loved ones leave us feeling unseen, unheard, or unworthy, this can lead to relational trauma. Relational trauma can happen in any family, culture, or upbringing. If you grew up feeling like you had to earn love, constantly meet expectations, or carry the emotional weight of others, relational trauma may be shaping how you show up in the world — even if you’ve never considered yourself “traumatized.”
Read MoreI’ve been mad at God plenty of times. There, I said it. Maybe you are too. Maybe you’ve prayed without ceasing, cried until your tears ran dry, begged for answers that never came, only to feel nothing but silence in return. Maybe life has blindsided you with heartbreak, loss, grief, or disappointment, and every time you look around, it feels like God is just watching it happen.
Read MoreSometimes, you don’t even realize that things from your childhood are still shaping your life today. Maybe you feel anxious for no clear reason, struggle to trust people, or notice patterns in your relationships that keep repeating. If that sounds familiar, childhood trauma may be quietly influencing your adult life.
Read MoreSome days, it feels like technology is catching up with everything—your grocery list, your calendar, even your thoughts. You can ask your phone for advice, chat with an AI when you're feeling low, and scroll through perfectly curated mental health content. So… where does therapy fit in anymore?
Maybe you've even wondered: “Is seeing a therapist really necessary when I can get quick support from apps or AI?”
I get it. And if you're here, maybe you’re not anti-therapy—you’re just exhausted. Or curious. Or trying to figure out the best use of your time, your money, and your energy.
But here’s the truth, one I believe deep in my bones:
We are wired for human connection. No amount of artificial intelligence can replace the healing power of being seen—really seen—by another person.
It’s late. Maybe you're lying in bed, phone in hand, scrolling through social media or random articles, just looking for something to distract you or make the sadness in your heart feel a little less heavy.
You’re not sure what you’re searching for exactly—or maybe you do, maybe you desperately wants answers, direction, or to know someone is experiencing the same season of life as you.
If that’s where you are tonight, take a breath — you’re not alone.
Read MoreThere’s a certain kind of smile that women—especially mothers, therapists, and caretakers—learn to master. It’s the smile that says, “I’m fine,” even when your heart feels like it’s cracking beneath the surface. It’s the smile you give to your children when you’ve only had two hours of sleep. The smile you wear on a video call with clients even though your own life feels like it’s slowly unraveling in the background. The smile that says, “I’ve got this,” when, truthfully, you’re not sure how much longer you can carry it all.
Read Moref you find yourself lying awake at night, replaying conversations or worrying about the next day—you’re not alone. Google searches for anxiety and depression peak between 11 PM and 2 AM, especially on Sunday nights. It’s often the only time we’re quiet enough to hear just how overwhelmed we are. And in that moment, many of us turn to our phones—not for distraction, but for answers. We scroll through advice from strangers, therapists, or anyone who seems to understand what we’re feeling. We're not just looking for tips; we're reaching for relief, connection, and some kind of hope that maybe—we're not alone in this.
Read MoreHave you ever found yourself asking, “Why am I so anxious?”
Maybe it hits you in the middle of the night when your mind won’t stop racing.
Or during the day, when you feel like you’re juggling a million things but still feel like you’re falling behind.
Maybe you actually feel “okay” about how things have been going, only to open up one of your social media accounts to find someone “doing it better”.
Maybe you experience tension in your neck, chest or lower back but can’t quite explain why.
You’re not alone.
Read MoreCognitive reframing is a mental health strategy that helps you shift your perspective, allowing you to view challenges, setbacks, or negative situations in a more positive or constructive light. It doesn’t deny the difficulty of a situation—it empowers you to interpret it in a way that’s actionable and encouraging.
Read MoreAccording to National Center for Health Research surveys, the most popular social media platforms are YouTube (95%), TikTok (67%), Instagram (62%), Snapchat(59%), and Facebook (32%). There has been much talk on how the use of social media can be harmful to our mental health if not managed. Social media can disrupt our sleep, impact our cortisol levels, increase symptoms of anxiety, depression and loneliness. Social media can increase negative thoughts about ourselves if low self esteem and insecurities are pre-existing. Although social media can be educational and informative if the sources are legitimate, the cons are very much alive, especially for younger, impressionable generations, where looks and money seem to be threaded into views.
Read MoreUnderstanding attachment styles is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships. Anxiously attached individuals often experience distress and insecurity in their relationships, which can lead to various challenges. This blog aims to shed light on the symptoms of anxious attachment, provide real-life examples, and offer practical solutions to improve relationship dynamics.
Read MoreEffective communication is the cornerstone of a thriving and enduring marriage. It serves as the foundation upon which trust, intimacy, and understanding are built. Conversely, poor communication can lead couples down a path towards divorce, as unresolved issues, misunderstandings, and emotional disconnection erode the marital bond.
Read MoreIn today's society, the idea that relationships are the key to personal fulfillment and happiness has become deeply ingrained. We often hear phrases like "you complete me" or "I can't live without you," perpetuating the belief that being in a relationship is the ultimate goal. However, the truth is that relationships do not make you whole. In this blog post, we will explore this misconception, discuss strategies to prevent ourselves from falling into the trap of believing this lie, and address the fear of being alone. By finding wholeness within ourselves and reframing singleness, we can cultivate healthier relationships, lead fulfilling lives, and overcome the fear of being alone.
Read MoreAttachment styles play a crucial role in our relationships, shaping the way we connect and bond with others. Among the various attachment styles, anxious attachment stands out as a common pattern that affects friendships and romantic relationships. In this blog, we will explore the world of anxious attachment, answering the question: "How do I know if I am anxiously attached?" Furthermore, we will delve into the origins of anxious attachment, its negative impact on relationships, and most importantly, provide guidance on how to transition from an anxious attachment style to a secure one.
Read MoreComparison traps and negative thinking can have a significant impact on our mental well-being, leading to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and diminished happiness. In this blog, we will explore five powerful strategies to combat comparison traps and negative thinking. These research-backed techniques will help individuals navigate the challenges of the digital age and foster a positive mindset in 2023.
Read MoreWhen traveling by plane, every parent knows this important reminder, “In the event of an emergency, please put on your oxygen mask before assisting younger children”. As parents we understand and agree, but this reminder also applies to motherhood as a whole, and especially to those caring for special needs children. You need to learn to help yourself first before you can help your child, and you should not wait until there’s an emergency.
Research has found that some mothers of children with autism had physiological stress profiles similar to those of combat soldiers…
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